FILL your mind, your heart, your body, and especially your social media feed with stuff that makes you happy. These are some of the things that went a really long way it helping me stay positive every day.
The Tonight Show Starring Jimmy Fallon – I watched this show every night after I got the girls to bed. I’d make myself my favorite pregnancy snack (caffeine free diet coke and grapefruit), crawl into my warm, comfy bed, and smile my way through his nightly episode instead of crying myself to sleep. @jimmyfallon – Thanks Jimmy.
I watched only comedy..dramas, rom-coms, anything that could trigger sad feelings I avoided like the plague. It took a good 6 months for me to be strong enough to enjoy those things again.
This one was tricky for me..it still is! I really connect with music. I associate songs to people and events. I internalize lyrics as if it’s my own personal story. It’s borderline unhealthy. To this day, there are songs that remind me of the first few months following my divorce. My ex husband even posted this sad “I’m not good enough for you so you should leave” song on his facebook (guhhhh grow up.) when he left me that used to rip my guts out. Now if I hear it, I just think “Oh, it’s that song…” but it has zero affect on me emotionally. I’m just telling you this because I want you to know that heartache DOESN’T last forever. Just give it time.
Healing Through Christ – A must read if you’re struggling with your spouse’s adultery, addiction, lying, and probably just about ANYTHING else. This book put into words all the feelings I was struggling to articulate. That was a powerful step forward for me.
The Gifts of Imperfection by Brene Brown – From her theories to the stories she used as examples, Brene Brown made me want to demolish the walls I had put up around myself so I could live a better, more meaningful life. As I read this book, I realized that part of the reason we endure trials is so that once we’ve made our way through them, we can help others on similar paths.
Choosing Glory – This description is straight from the website because they explain it best. “Choosing Glory considers the doctrine of celestial, terrestrial and telestial realms, suggesting that here on earth we deal with all three kinds of individuals, behaviors, institutions, and ways of life. Dr. Anderson applies a three realm perspective to daily choices, dating, marriage, parenting, stress and progression. She offers concrete tools to help us find safety from telestial elements that threaten our peace and reminds us that we were meant for more than a good terrestrial life. This book invites us to recognize that every day we are in fact choosing glory.” – This book just made so much sense to me. I highly recommend it.
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